Five Reasons Wasting Time with Your Neighbor Is A Good Idea
By Russell Holloway
Christian Counseling Finder Co-founder
Friendship makes life so much better. For years I believed that relationships had to be goal directed in order to be meaningful. I’ve changed my mind. Research is starting to show that our busy lives foster superficial relationships with negative outcomes related to physical health, mental health, job burnout, or impaired family relationships. Wasting time with our neighbors is anything but a waste of time. Building deeper, none demand, relationships with neighbors nurtures an increased sense of wellbeing, which translates into lower stress and more happiness. Below are four additional reasons wasting time with your neighbor is a great idea.
Creativity is inspired.
Fresh perspectives are creativity’s food. If your work requires a certain amount of creative thinking, or thinking outside the box as some like to say, getting away from your routine is important. Hanging out with neighbors not only gives your mind a break from work, chatting with neighbors can give you a novel viewpoint on life.
Society becomes a little less polarized.
It is much easier to like someone with a different political ideology or worldview when you hangout in the backyard together and eat potato salad. The world needs more love and less hate. Neighboring is a great way to help deescalate an angry society. If you really want to change the world, be a good neighbor.
Problem solving is enhanced.
Neighbors often have skills, or tools, the other needs. When we build relationships with our neighbors, it is much easier to access needed advice or get help. Also, if you have an issue with your neighbor, like his dog is sneaking over at night and pooping in your yard, it is easier to resolve conflict if you are already friends.
We gain a sense of belonging.
Humans are born with the desire to belong. We are at our best when we exist in healthy community. Neighboring gives us the opportunity to live our lives in the context of healthy relationship. Just hanging out and being a friend obliges commitment, it often requires forgiveness, and it necessitates patience; we are dealing with humans after all. But the rewards are worth it.
God bless you, and may your relationship with your neighbors be blessed. We are praying you grow closer to God while growing closer to the people who populate your life.